PrattRules wrote:At what point do you start calling your parents friends by their first name? I still address them as Mr. and Mrs. ______ when I speak with them, and I don't think that'll ever change.

About the time when you start considering them as friends instead of parents' friends.

Also works with friends' parents.

PrattRules wrote:At what point do you start calling your parents friends by their first name? I still address them as Mr. and Mrs. ______ when I speak with them, and I don't think that'll ever change.

When you drink with them.

Dude next to me wrt gun violence: "Society's like a lab retriever: lazy and they don't want to have to do anything"

PrattRules wrote:At what point do you start calling your parents friends by their first name? I still address them as Mr. and Mrs. ______ when I speak with them, and I don't think that'll ever change.

I'm brutal with friends' parents. Just last night I ate at a friend's house with his parents and I pretty much reverted to a timid kid with a vocabulary of "Please" and "Thank you." The name thing was especially weird because he's my friend's stepdad, and he just calls him Joe, which I couldn't do, so I didn't call him anything.

thread subject makes me laugh

TV and anyone else who teaches, how do you handle requests for recommendations from crappy students who you barely know?

Why would a student that barely knows you ask for a recommendation? Usually they'd ask people that know them well...

BigEd76 wrote:Why would a student that barely knows you ask for a recommendation? Usually they'd ask people that know them well...

a lot of kids go through college without fostering a good relationship with any of their professors/TAs.

I got recommendations when going from high school to college because those teachers knew me well, but I never asked for any when going from college to career.

jerseyhoya wrote:TV and anyone else who teaches, how do you handle requests for recommendations from crappy students who you barely know?

I caught a kid cheating, who later asked for a recommendation. Kids are dumb (I said no).

If you have a crappy student ask for a rec, tell him that you are not able to write an effective recommendation, given their struggles in your class.

BTW, does this person want to pursue grad school? Why would he/she need a recommendation, for a job?

The Dude wrote:Dude next to me wrt gun violence: "Society's like a lab retriever: lazy and they don't want to have to do anything"

please tell me you took his gun & shot him

BigEd76 wrote:I got recommendations when going from high school to college because those teachers knew me well, but I never asked for any when going from college to career.

yeah same, but you do need 'em for grad school, which is the case here i'm guessing

swishnicholson wrote:

CalvinBall wrote:the circus is at work this week. my goal is to find where they keep the animals and then look at them i guess.

there are little girls with weird accents. maybe 8 yrs old? i always wondered how they got into the circus. like was it their choice? or were they born into it?

Check their teeth.

Hated that movie. Wanted to kill the bitch myself.

Werthless wrote:

jerseyhoya wrote:TV and anyone else who teaches, how do you handle requests for recommendations from crappy students who you barely know?

I caught a kid cheating, who later asked for a recommendation. Kids are dumb (I said no).

If you have a crappy student ask for a rec, tell him that you are not able to write an effective recommendation, given their struggles in your class.

BTW, does this person want to pursue grad school? Why would he/she need a recommendation, for a job?

She's applying to a (competitive?) study abroad program and needs a letter. Her options are fairly limited I guess. She wasn't a terrible student grade wise, but she didn't come to class regularly, didn't participate, and never said a word to me.

I'd say no if she was applying to a fancy grad program or something, but I guess this is harmless enough. It won't be the best thing I've ever produced.

Is she hot?

jerseyhoya wrote:She wasn't a terrible student grade wise, She is a high achieving student but she didn't come to class regularly who independently manages her time, didn't participate is a deep thinker, and never said a word to me and respects other people's time.

EZ PZ.

jerseyhoya wrote:

Werthless wrote:

jerseyhoya wrote:TV and anyone else who teaches, how do you handle requests for recommendations from crappy students who you barely know?

I caught a kid cheating, who later asked for a recommendation. Kids are dumb (I said no).

If you have a crappy student ask for a rec, tell him that you are not able to write an effective recommendation, given their struggles in your class.

BTW, does this person want to pursue grad school? Why would he/she need a recommendation, for a job?

She's applying to a (competitive?) study abroad program and needs a letter. Her options are fairly limited I guess. She wasn't a terrible student grade wise, but she didn't come to class regularly, didn't participate, and never said a word to me.

I'd say no if she was applying to a fancy grad program or something, but I guess this is harmless enough. It won't be the best thing I've ever produced.

You have three options--go ahead and write a lukewarm letter. If the place takes letters seriously, this might sink her. If they mostly care about grades, or whatever, it really won't make a difference. You can tell her straight out--I can't write you a letter because you were a slacker. You can agree to write a letter, and specifically use the letter to point out all her flaws, and really sink her chances.

Kids are dumb. In the main, letters aren't that important--but a negative one can sink you. They one exception might be a high powered academic grad program, but in that case, a letter from a TA isn't going to matter.

I generally tell crappy students no. Like I think Werth said, I tell them I can't write an effective letter. If they persist, I tell them I'll do it, but it will be negative because they were crummy students.

Also, I generally ask for a resume, or personal statement or something so I can back up the student's claims about themselves. I also like to have a copy of some assignment the student did, again, so I can refer to something specific.

Werthless wrote:

jerseyhoya wrote:She wasn't a terrible student grade wise, She is a high achieving student but she didn't come to class regularly who independently manages her time, didn't participate is a deep thinker, and never said a word to me and respects other people's time.

EZ PZ.

This is good.

My male friend and I are no longer.

I'm fine with it.

No longer than what?