Meh, friends can share a bed, no big deal. Everytime I go to NY I end up sleeping in bed with one of my three best girlfriends and sex is only occasionally involved.

Feigned ignorance has got to be one of the most annoying things in the world: sports guys acting like they don't know what a blog is, Joe Pa with his "BSC, BCS, I don't even know," politicians pandering. I hates it.

Ramon Gris wrote:

td11 wrote:

also, WE don't play games. Women play games. Fact. From a book. Of science.

What's she playing, solitaire?

What's she playing, "solitaire"? (FYP)

TenuredVulture wrote:

philliesphhan wrote:It sounds like you may even have things in reverse, Paul. He said he's too picky so maybe he just doesn't find this girl attractive enough.

He also said she's a good girl. She wants him. He isn't closing the deal. Maybe it's a moral thing, maybe it's aesthetic. Either way, he should stop sleeping in the same bed with her. How do I have that in reverse?

Let's start with a nice game of "just the tip" and go from there.

And as for the "she's a nice girl" thing, hogwash. The "wild girls" are often crumbs in bed, and the nice girls are usually dynamite, giving lovers. If you're worried about scarring her for life, A) Don't be so conceited; B) As long as you don't force the issue, you're fine.

Unless you have AIDS, then yeah, you're right to back off.

TenuredVulture wrote:

philliesphhan wrote:Maybe she's the one who's being a friend who secretly wants him

I don't think it's a secret. She's being about as obvious as she can be about being into him.

Oh shut up

Bakestar wrote:And as for the "she's a nice girl" thing, hogwash. The "wild girls" are often crumbs in bed, and the nice girls are usually dynamite, giving lovers. If you're worried about scarring her for life, A) Don't be so conceited; B) As long as you don't force the issue, you're fine.

Unless you have AIDS, then yeah, you're right to back off.

I don't think life scarring was even the issue here, but there's self-interests at play that you're ignoring, like

C) This girl is an essential link in your social circle
D) You're significantly more interested in one of her friends

Houshphandzadeh wrote:

Bakestar wrote:And as for the "she's a nice girl" thing, hogwash. The "wild girls" are often crumbs in bed, and the nice girls are usually dynamite, giving lovers. If you're worried about scarring her for life, A) Don't be so conceited; B) As long as you don't force the issue, you're fine.

Unless you have AIDS, then yeah, you're right to back off.

I don't think life scarring was even the issue here, but there's self-interests at play that you're ignoring, like

C) This girl is an essential link in your social circle
D) You're significantly more interested in one of her friends

Very good points, but I've always ascribed to the "bird in the hand/two in the bush" (LOL LOL LOL^2) theory, as in, "love the one you're with." Especially if/when you're about 20 years old.

I could watch that Single Ladies video for days. I really think you could rest a drink on it.

Houshphandzadeh wrote:

Bakestar wrote:And as for the "she's a nice girl" thing, hogwash. The "wild girls" are often crumbs in bed, and the nice girls are usually dynamite, giving lovers. If you're worried about scarring her for life, A) Don't be so conceited; B) As long as you don't force the issue, you're fine.

Unless you have AIDS, then yeah, you're right to back off.

I don't think life scarring was even the issue here, but there's self-interests at play that you're ignoring, like

C) This girl is an essential link in your social circle
D) You're significantly more interested in one of her friends

Oh fucking stop. Girls should never be "essential" links in your social circle. And if you're more interested in one of her friends, then you'd better damn well stop sharing a bed with her, and start making an effort to connect with the girl you're interested in.

Really, it's like I'm on a board with a bunch of women. Men are the ones who are supposed to be direct with what they want.

are you intentionally misreading all this stuff?

its possible to have a girl-friend (i put the dash in there to make it clear) that you're tight with and sleep with but dont fuck

no big deal

TenuredVulture wrote:

Houshphandzadeh wrote:Wait, so if he was attracted to her physically but not emotionally, your advice is to go ahead and get down, but since the situation is reversed, he should not sleep in the bed to avoid hurting her? I don't get it.

He should not sleep in the same bed if he's not going to have sex with her.

Freshman year of college, I met this chick, first day actually, I thought she was hot, we played pool hung out, she slept in my bed that night. I didn't make a move, because I was a rookie and I froze. about a week later I came home from a party and she was getting balled by my room mate. The lesson here... Just do it.

but td doesn't like her as more than a friend

so what would he get out of it? a "notch"?

fuck that

Bill McNeal wrote:

TenuredVulture wrote:

Houshphandzadeh wrote:Wait, so if he was attracted to her physically but not emotionally, your advice is to go ahead and get down, but since the situation is reversed, he should not sleep in the bed to avoid hurting her? I don't get it.

He should not sleep in the same bed if he's not going to have sex with her.

Freshman year of college, I met this chick, first day actually, I thought she was hot, we played pool hung out, she slept in my bed that night. I didn't make a move, because I was a rookie and I froze. about a week later I came home from a party and she was getting balled by my room mate. The lesson here... Just do it.

Exactly. If you want her, go for it. If you don't want her, stop wasting her time and your time.

I vote for TV in this poll. I promise, he's right.

Oh, and PinP, I totally don't understand your post (the FYP one). If it's a grammar correction I'm never talking to you again.

Houshphandzadeh wrote:but td doesn't like her as more than a friend

so what would he get out of it? a "notch"?

$#@! that

My bad, I didn't read all of the goings on. I thought he was in to her. If he is just a friend to her, then he probably shouldn't be sleeping in her bed like that, unless he's sure she feels exactly the same way or it's just gonna lead to hard feelings, at least that's the way I see it from here. But then again, I'm a little bit drunk.

How many of these "girl friends" are you going to keep? It's not like this is one of those friendships you'll maintain for years. If there's an attraction (which there clearly is, or you wouldn't be sleeping with her, or posting here about it), it's worth taking advantage.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: It's better to regret having sex with a girl than to regret not having had sex with her. I tell you this from experience. If I had had sex with that girl, I would have solved this trouble immediately, and be in another state by now. Would've gotten this crap squared away in the summertime, when the transient population is at its highest. Instead, I'm an idiot, and I waited for the trouble to present itself, which happened to take place in December, and am currently suffering the consequences.

Ramon Gris wrote:It's better to regret having sex with a girl than to regret not having had sex with her.

This is some of the best advice you will ever read on this board. It's undeniably true.

unless she's hiv positive

Ramon Gris wrote:I vote for TV in this poll. I promise, he's right.

Oh, and PinP, I totally don't understand your post (the FYP one). If it's a grammar correction I'm never talking to you again.

Just playin' the euphemism. The first thing that popped into my mind was, uh, let's say something where batteries are often required, but then I decided to take it in a little more classy direction. Then again, if you actually did mean...