Phan Paul wrote:

Richard Thon wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Bill McNeal wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:When you only spend 3% of your time together, not a whole lot of opportunity for... well, anything.

like getting to know one another.

What is it, an arranged marriage?

Nope. We went to college together, and dated for about three and a quarter of the four years we were in it, so we saw each other every day then. Got engaged a few months after that, but since graduation and until our wedding we're still on opposite ends of the country in our respective hometowns.

I hope you haven't both grown as people to the point that you won't even recognize one another. Hope that hasn't happened.

Or even worse, that quality that is so endearing when you only see each other a few times a year becomes really, really aggravating when you have to deal with it every single day of your life.

Well, that was three plus years of college, and we're still together. Yeah, we haven't lived together before, but the wacko-Catholic conservative in me thinks that the whole notion of "you have to live together first to see if that arrangement works out" is a load of crap, especially when increasing rates of people living together are coupled with increasing divorce rates.

So yeah, we've done the see each other every day thing, then the long distance thing, then the hyper-long distance thing when she lived in Japan for a year, so I think we're fairly well equipped to handle just about anything.

Besides, I better think that, or else it'd be awfully dumb to get married, eh?

TheDude24 wrote:

z ipper wrote:a qdoba opened by my place and i'm positively excited to go there this weekend.

Are you talking about the one on Baltimore Pike in Springfield? If so, I wonder if that will hurt the nearby Baja Fresh's business. I don't think so. Competition is healthy.

yeah, that's the one. i thought it was kinda odd that they chose to open up their franchise there.

i don't really like that baja fresh as they've taken forever the few times i've been. there's a place called mesa fresh mexican grill close by in the marple crossroads shopping center that i think it better than baja fresh but not in the chipotle/qdoba range.

Phan Paul wrote:

swishnicholson wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Bakestar wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Richard Thon wrote:over/under for Gunblade's monthly expenditure on porn ppv now that he is free to "enjoy" it without threat of his mother barging into his room....$72

I'm getting married in three weeks, so you might want to revise your estimate.

Okay, $350 a month.

Haha, that'd be awesome... but she's not exactly into the idea.

And I've already said too much... then again, I blew way past that line with the easy-to-clog toilets conversation.

Doesn't really matter whether she's into it or not. I hate to be the one to break the news, but getting married means you stop having sex. But don't get too glum. Sometimes it takes a while.

Au contraire--12 years of marriage and still going strong.

I guess swish needed to be more explicit- he should've said "stop having sex with each other".

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Phan Paul wrote:

Richard Thon wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Bill McNeal wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:When you only spend 3% of your time together, not a whole lot of opportunity for... well, anything.

like getting to know one another.

What is it, an arranged marriage?

Nope. We went to college together, and dated for about three and a quarter of the four years we were in it, so we saw each other every day then. Got engaged a few months after that, but since graduation and until our wedding we're still on opposite ends of the country in our respective hometowns.

I hope you haven't both grown as people to the point that you won't even recognize one another. Hope that hasn't happened.

Or even worse, that quality that is so endearing when you only see each other a few times a year becomes really, really aggravating when you have to deal with it every single day of your life.

Well, that was three plus years of college, and we're still together. Yeah, we haven't lived together before, but the wacko-Catholic conservative in me thinks that the whole notion of "you have to live together first to see if that arrangement works out" is a load of crap, especially when increasing rates of people living together are coupled with increasing divorce rates.

So yeah, we've done the see each other every day thing, then the long distance thing, then the hyper-long distance thing when she lived in Japan for a year, so I think we're fairly well equipped to handle just about anything.

Besides, I better think that, or else it'd be awfully dumb to get married, eh?

I'm totally against living together before marriange, though I actually did it. I ended up marrying someone else. But the whole living together without being married cost me. I lost a couple of good record albums, a bed, and some other stuff.

Here's a test. The first time you have to fart in front of her, do the old "pull my finger" gag. This should be done sometime after the reception, but before you get to the honeymoon suite.

Phan Paul wrote:Here's a test. The first time you have to fart in front of her, do the old "pull my finger" gag. This should be done sometime after the reception, but before you get to the honeymoon suite.

You gotta do better than that; I passed that test about a year or so ago. What else you got?

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Phan Paul wrote:Here's a test. The first time you have to fart in front of her, do the old "pull my finger" gag. This should be done sometime after the reception, but before you get to the honeymoon suite.

You gotta do better than that; I passed that test about a year or so ago. What else you got?

It's never too soon to start planning for your 50th anniversary.

Anyway, you want better? Try it with you new father in law.

im actually going to Vegas in the end of september to get married

Phan Paul wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Phan Paul wrote:Here's a test. The first time you have to fart in front of her, do the old "pull my finger" gag. This should be done sometime after the reception, but before you get to the honeymoon suite.

You gotta do better than that; I passed that test about a year or so ago. What else you got?

It's never too soon to start planning for your 50th anniversary.

Anyway, you want better? Try it with you new father in law.

I'm not that stupid. Although he'd probably laugh.

That brings about a somewhat related half-random thought: my soon-to-be father-in-law wants me to call him by his first name... and I can't do it. Feels out-of-bounds or too informal considering my position in relation to them, I think. Not to him, or others in my fiancee's family when I talk about him. So obviously, he thinks the Mr. is too formal for me, leaving me with really nothing to refer to him by. Not really a problem when I'm talking to him, since I can just use "you", but when I'm talking about him, it's pretty awkward.

Although I can see how it would be strange to call your father-in-law John or whatever, I think it would be way weirder to have some grown man start calling you Dad all of a sudden.

Phan Paul wrote:

swishnicholson wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Bakestar wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Richard Thon wrote:over/under for Gunblade's monthly expenditure on porn ppv now that he is free to "enjoy" it without threat of his mother barging into his room....$72

I'm getting married in three weeks, so you might want to revise your estimate.

Okay, $350 a month.

Haha, that'd be awesome... but she's not exactly into the idea.

And I've already said too much... then again, I blew way past that line with the easy-to-clog toilets conversation.

Doesn't really matter whether she's into it or not. I hate to be the one to break the news, but getting married means you stop having sex. But don't get too glum. Sometimes it takes a while.

Au contraire--12 years of marriage and still going strong.

While on the trolley today, two Kensington/Fishtowners recognized each other and had this exchange.

A: You used to hang out with Porky, right?
B: Porky Flynn?
A: No, no.
B: Porky Katz?
A: No, no. He had red hair, blah, blah...

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Phan Paul wrote:

GunbladeVIII wrote:

Phan Paul wrote:Here's a test. The first time you have to fart in front of her, do the old "pull my finger" gag. This should be done sometime after the reception, but before you get to the honeymoon suite.

You gotta do better than that; I passed that test about a year or so ago. What else you got?

It's never too soon to start planning for your 50th anniversary.

Anyway, you want better? Try it with you new father in law.

I'm not that stupid. Although he'd probably laugh.

That brings about a somewhat related half-random thought: my soon-to-be father-in-law wants me to call him by his first name... and I can't do it. Feels out-of-bounds or too informal considering my position in relation to them, I think. Not to him, or others in my fiancee's family when I talk about him. So obviously, he thinks the Mr. is too formal for me, leaving me with really nothing to refer to him by. Not really a problem when I'm talking to him, since I can just use "you", but when I'm talking about him, it's pretty awkward.

12 years of marriage, I've gotten by with "you" for both my mother and father in law. I don't think I'm an exception. If I'm talking about them with my wife (which really, everyone should avoid as much as possible, they're "your mother" and "your father".

One benefit of having a kid is that you can simply refer to them with their granparent names. So, now my inlaws are Nana and Papa.

A friend of mine got called out by his mother-in-law for not ever calling her by a name. He would wait until she was looking at him before speaking so as to avoid calling her by her first name or (worse) calling her "Mom."

phatj wrote:A friend of mine got called out by his mother-in-law for not ever calling her by a name. He would wait until she was looking at him before speaking so as to avoid calling her by her first name or (worse) calling her "Mom."

I used this exact same tactic for the 4 years I dated my last girlfriend. Luckily I was never called out on it though. It was really strange because I had no problem calling her dad by his first name, but I just felt totally awkward calling her mom, well.... anything.

phatj wrote:A friend of mine got called out by his mother-in-law for not ever calling her by a name. He would wait until she was looking at him before speaking so as to avoid calling her by her first name or (worse) calling her "Mom."

Is it his fault that the names he called her by were names she wouldn't want to hear?

I'm glad to hear others have struggled with this. Gunblade should be happy that his Father-In -Law has stated a preference so soon. It's probably a conversation that should be carried on early in a marriage but often gets put off.

i recently heard two things on the tv that i'm pretty sure are out-and-out lies:

1) 70% of all black kids in the u.s. are born to either single moms or unwed parents

2) every four seconds there is a false charge somewhere on a credit card

z ipper wrote:i recently heard two things on the tv that i'm pretty sure are out-and-out lies:

1) 70% of all black kids in the u.s. are born to either single moms or unwed parents

2) every four seconds there is a false charge somewhere on a credit card

The first may be somewhat close to the truth, since according to thisdata, drawn from the 2005 US Census American Community Survey 65% of African American children were living (not born into) single parent households. And data elsewhere states that the percentage of births to unmarried women of all races is now 36.8%.

I have no idea about the second, but I would want to know how many credit card transactions are performed every four seconds (I'll bet it's a lot) before I knew how high this number really is.

I can't remember the last time I watched "the news", as in a regularly scheduled program, on TV.

So I have a totally sweet view of the Comcast Center construction from my office. Anyway, I thought it was looking like the tits, as Billy Mac is wont to say, but today's sunny skies have me a tad worried about how it will look when completed. The glass isn't as reflective as I thought, so you can see all these horizontal bands on it when the sun hits it. Maybe it's a good thing that it's never sunny in Philadelphia.

z ipper wrote:2) every four seconds there is a false charge somewhere on a credit card

I pity the poor soul that owns that credit card.