So I've been dealing with a bit of drama at home lately and I honestly am at my wit's end.

My roommate, a few days ago, all of a sudden showed up with a girl he's been seeing for a week. They spent the night together and everything was fine. The next night, I see them coming home and she's got a carry-on bag with her. I didn't want to make a scene so I said nothing.

The next morning, I approached my roommate about the bag and he informed me that she was going to stay with us for a little while. When I asked him 'how long', he couldn't give me an answer. So I basically exploded on him and his girlfriend, resulting in a huge argument and her leaving later that night.

A couple of days have passed and there's massive tension in our apartment now. Well, this morning my roommate told me that he wants to move his new girlfriend in and if there's any way we can make it work.

Ugh. I just don't want to deal with this crap right now. We live in a tiny NY apartment, the last thing I need is another person living with me.

I don't know what to do. Should I get the landlord involved? Maybe he won't allow her to move in. But will that cause even more tension with my roommate.

you pals or is he just a craigslist guy

Try telling him no first and then seeing what his reaction is. Your reasons are fine and if he has a problem with it he really doesn't have any way to go around you

The Dude wrote:he really doesn't have any way to go around you

a literal cock block?

probably might have been better to calmly explain your issues with it instead of blowing up at them

yeah DiM your history of doing that is disturbing. I want you to see someone

I don't think you're under any obligation to let this girl move in. But if you do, make it financially advantageous. Get your rent down to no more than a 1/3 of the total--none of this "well we're only in one of the rooms, so we only play half. And get them to pick up all the utilities.

He was just being flamboyant

TenuredVulture wrote:I don't think you're under any obligation to let this girl move in. But if you do, make it financially advantageous. Get your rent down to no more than a 1/3 of the total--none of this "well we're only in one of the rooms, so we only play half. And get them to pick up all the utilities.

I think this is my best option right now in order to keep the peace. Hopefully, they get to know each other better and it results in her moving out eventually.

how are you going to be able to keep the peace with her moving in when you couldn't even tolerate a sleepover

A landlord of mine in DC capped night guests at five per year in the lease. Unfortunately it didn't become a problem

that sucks, DiM. really your roommate is the jackass for thinking he could just spring that on you. i'd say calmly voicing your concerns upfront is the way to go but say that you're open to a trial period to see how it works out, maybe it wont be so bad, etc etc. probably want to put some stuff in writing that you all agree to. what kind of leverage do you have? was this your apartment and then homeboy moved in? but yeah, being levelheaded and organized is key.

one of my roommates just up and moved in his girlfriend for this past month. didn't even ask or offer to help pay for anything. i don't really mind because our house is real big, but i blew up at her once for trying to tell me the proper way to put utensils in our drying rack.

10 days until i'm out of this disaster of a house.

i don't get people who move in to situation like that and don't fucking walk on eggshells every minute they're there. but then again maybe i was like that before mrs. mose got me spayed and housebroken

I'm kind of on the other side of this. My girlfriend lives right down the street, but crashes at my place just about every night. I don't think my roommate is happy about it based on a few sly comments, but, then again, he's also hooked up with a bunch of her friends. He's getting something out of the deal and this thing just kind of happened. I feel a bit like a dick and, to be honest, wished she wasn't sleeping over all the time, but as it stands has been less of a headache for me than any of the alternatives. So yea.

Y'all just need to grow up and not have roommates.

flophouse, any qualms?

kruker wrote:I'm kind of on the other side of this. My girlfriend lives right down the street, but crashes at my place just about every night. I don't think my roommate is happy about it based on a few sly comments, but, then again, he's also hooked up with a bunch of her friends. He's getting something out of the deal and this thing just kind of happened. I feel a bit like a dick and, to be honest, wished she wasn't sleeping over all the time, but as it stands has been less of a headache for me than any of the alternatives. So yea.

i've only met 3 of her female friends and 2 were lesbians and the other was dumb enough for me to lose interest in after 5 minutes of meeting her, so yeah, i get nothing there either. she's the kind of girl who has like 200 guys she considers her friend.

Slowhand wrote:Y'all just need to grow up and not have roommates.

i'd be paying like 250 more a month just on rent and be living in a studio.

jamiethekiller wrote:flophouse, any qualms?

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